Stop Saying ‘I Know How You Feel’ And Start Listening

Last Updated on January 10, 2023 by Editors Desk

It’s been said that the way to a person’s heart is through their stomach. In other words, our first impression of someone will come from the things they’ve prepared for us. If you want to get someone to trust you and open up, you need to start listening. When someone says they don’t know how you feel, they don’t mean it literally. They may not be able to put what you are going through into words, but they do understand how it feels.

Whether we like it or not, everyone feels something most of the time. The only difference is most people don’t like admitting this because it makes them seem weak or vulnerable. As a result, people tend to ignore these feelings rather than confront them head-on. Instead of saying ‘I know how you feel and forcing them to deal with their emotions head-on, try saying one of these instead:

What do you think will make you feel better?

This is a great way to start a conversation or conversation about a problem. This question could be directed to something that’s bothering you, like a headache, or something that’s bothering someone else, like a fight with a loved one. You want to start the conversation with a question that helps the other person feel comfortable.

You can also start with this question when you want to find out what someone is thinking or feeling, like when you want to find out what someone’s plans are for the future or why they’re angry. You might try starting with this as a way to figure things out or to improve a tense situation. You might also use this if you want to get to know someone better.

How can I help?

This is a great way to start off a conversation about a problem that someone is experiencing. This works especially well in the context of a relationship, like with a friend, family member, or loved one. If you want to find out what someone’s thinking or feeling, this is a great way to start the conversation. You can ask, What are you thinking right now? What are you feeling right now?

That doesn’t sound like you. Tell me more.

This is a great way to open up a conversation about a problem or a situation and find out what’s going on. This is a great question to ask someone when you are trying to figure out what’s going on inside of them. This is not a question you would ask someone who is not struggling with something. This is a question you would ask someone who is struggling with a problem or something that is keeping them from being their authentic self.

Why don’t you say that out loud?

This is a great way to open up a conversation about something holding someone back or preventing them from being their best self. This is especially helpful if someone is hesitant to talk about something. This is a great way to start a conversation about something holding someone back, like shame or fear they might be embarrassed to talk about. You can also use this when you want to start a conversation about something that is keeping you from being your best self.

Don’t be a know-it-all

When you’re trying to connect with someone, you want to be the person they can open up to. So, if you start acting like you know it all, you might end up alienating them before you even know it. No one likes to be around someone who’s too confident.

So, instead of trying to impress people with your knowledge of everything, use it as a way to connect with them. Engage in topics that relate to their interests, and use your knowledge to discuss things from a different point of view.

Don’t be a know-nothing

When you’re trying to connect with someone, you want to be the person they can open up to. So, if you start acting like you know nothing, you might end up alienating them before you even know it. No one likes to be around someone who’s too ignorant. So, instead of trying to impress people with your knowledge of everything, use it as a way to connect with them. Engage in topics that relate to their interests, and use your knowledge to discuss things from a different point of view.

Stop saying ‘I know how you feel

When you’re around new people, it’s common to say ‘I know how you feel’ to them. It’s a nice gesture, but it actually shows how little you know about them. When you say ‘I know how you feel’ you’re implying that you understand their emotions and are going to try to solve their problems for them. And that’s not only disrespectful, it’s also unhelpful.

Be an active listener

It’s important to show that you’re actively listening to others. That’s not just by nodding your head while they’re talking to you, but by actually taking in what they’re saying. When you try to reply to people too quickly or interrupt them, they’re going to get the impression that you’re not really listening to them. This is especially true if you’re trying to connect with someone who’s sensitive about their feelings.

Ask open questions to show you care

Before you jump straight into telling someone what to do, try asking them open-ended questions to show you care. This demonstrates that you’re interested in what they have to say, and it also gives you an opportunity to show your expertise in certain areas.

Get a new perspective on things

If you’re constantly trying to connect with someone, you might find that you’re regurgitating the same things over and over again. This is especially true if you’re trying to connect with someone who’s sensitive about their feelings or issues. Try to put yourself in their shoes and see things from a different perspective. You might be surprised at the new conclusions you come to.

Conclusion

Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. It’s important to be honest and sincere when speaking with someone or having a conversation. Ultimately, if you want to be successful at connecting with others, you first need to learn how to communicate effectively. And, while you can never be too careful with your words, you can also avoid these five common communication mistakes: Don’t be a know-it-all, don’t be a know-nothing, stop saying ‘I know how you feel’, be an active listener, and stop saying ‘I know how you feel’. Not only will you be more successful at connecting with others, you’ll also be more confident and self-assured in your own abilities.